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in sha Allah ..jzk khair for dua .

Assalam o Alaikum ... ji mein starting se hi kuch na kuch deyti thi ... as merey bhai bahaer country se atay they to koi na koi cheez mein saas ko nando ko deyti thi ....husband ko to merey bhai hi kuch na kuch deytey they .....or meri ammi k gehr b kabi dawat etc hoti to mummy khana wagera sab bhijwati for saas..... shadi k doosrey month hi sas ne masi nikalwadi thi ..... & me kaprey dhotey gir gai thi when i was preg. us k bad laitney nhi diya i asked k 10 mins lait k mein baki kaam poora ker leyti hoon ..unhone mana kya to usi waqt sab kya n kafi tbyat kharab hogai thi kafi tym hsp. mein admit rahi ..... us k bad ammi ne dena gifts etc kum kerdiya tha .....hal hi mein mom ne delivery kerwai bnachey etc k liye sab diya as houta hai hamaray culture mein ....sab berh cherh k ..... but is me b ye tha k is design k kaprey kyun aai ye thorey puraney hein mujhey new walay chahiye ... tmhari ammi ne tmhe gold diya to mujhey kyun nahi diya etc ..... meri husband se mashaAllah banti thi ,,,, ghussay k taiz hain but houjata tha sab chalta tha ...hmari Alhumdulilah kbi larai nhi hui thi....wo lertey they bato mein a k but Alhumdulilah sab handle houjata tha ....abhi b hamari koi larai nhi thi .... as saas ne call ki or office se a k bina kuch poochey hath utha diya .... or jo aap call ka abhi keh rahey ho ..... aisi condition mein to call nhi ker sakti na sas ko ....muamlay ki nazakat hai.

& im v sure k wo kisi or lerki mein interested nahi or meri sas b unki shadi kahin or nhi kerna chahti thin phir baki allah janta hai. ....meri sas thori lalchi typ ki hein k unhein merey maikay se waqtan foqtan kuch milay ..... jis bais per sunati hain or i guess isi waja se fasad dalwa rahi hain.

Assalam o alaikum brother mene apni family se detailed me discuss ker chuki hoon .... wo mujhey janey ka mana ker re hein ... k husband guarantee deytey hein k insaf kareingey to jao else nahi ...... merey husband ki call aii thi milney k next day k is tym pe ana ... mene poocha aap guarantee deytey ho k kuch bura nahi hoga ab .... to he said k ... jese tum p bht zulm ho raha hai ...aogi apni shadi bachaney aogi mujh p ehsan nhi kerogi .... bas itni bat hui ... thn mene sms ker diya k aap insaf kerogey izzat se rakhogey to kyun nhi aoongi aapki b khidmat keroongi appki ammi ki b lekin aise kese k ao tumhe beizzat kareingey bura sulook kareynge .... jab aapko bivi bachay ki responsiblity samajh aai aap lay jana .... koi reply nhi aya next day call aai mummy ko .... mummy ne kaha k mujhse bat nhi kerwaigin .... or mujhey usi soorat me bhejengi jab aap guarantee do k ghalat nhi houga ... or kaha k aapko hath nhi uthana chahiye tha aap se iski umeed nhi thi .... wo meri ammi ko bolne lagay k mujhey aap se iski iumeed nhi thi ... or dhamki di k bht bura ho sakta hai ...yani chorney pe keh rahey they ... mummy ne kaha Allah malik hai ... aap guarantee do to abhi bhej doon werna nahi ... ab mujhse b sab yehi keh rahey hein k .... ager guarantee deytey hein sukoon ka gher deingey aise nhi houga ab to jaogi werna nahi .... mager mujhey kuch samajh nahi araha..... bht tense hoon ... mein chahti hoon sab sahi hojaein ...umnhein pata lagey k unhoney ghalat kya hai ... or us p or ghalat ker re hein ...aise to koi b nahi reh sakta na .....mujhey idher bethney mein b sukoon nahi or udher janey mein b ... bht buri phans gai hoon bs Allah asani karey ...aameen or un ko unki ghalti ka ehsas shiddat se ho k sab sahi hojai agay k liye aameen .

Assalam o alaikum plzz will someone reply ...? i need advice... i don have any peace of mind .... kindly help.

Assalam o alaikum Kal sath hi mujhe or post kerni thi , nhi ker pai I'm sorry aap logo ka bht waqt n energy le rhi hun .... Aik advice needed hai .... As kal merey husband aai baher ley gai kafi bt hui .... Unho ne apney kisi act p sorry nhi ki lekin ye kaha k meri galti thi .... But baki sab cheezein ulat di k tm kuch kerti hi nhi isliye tmhe bola jata he etc etc ...... Or kaha k meri maa ko kuch b minor sa b na kaho ... Kahein utho to uth jao betho to beth jao .... Din ko rat kahe to rat he .... Koi b kam bolay to jo ker rhi ho usko chor k wo kam shuru kerdo .... Or ab masi nikal deingey tmko kerna he sab ... Or apne ammi abbu ko le k kal ajao ... Tmhe b bht sunaeinge zaleeel karenge tmharey ma baap ko b .... Or tmharey ma bap samne se koi shikayat nhi karey mafi mang k zaberdasti tmhe bithaein hum mana kareynge me b mana kerunga bht sunaoonga mgr tmhe wuhi chor k chalay jaein .... ( me kamrey me sahi hojaoonga) Or kaha k 2-4 roz k bd sab kamo ki setting ker lenge .... Namaz ka tym hoga her cheez ka tym houga ....

Walaikumus salam wr wb Brother! Aap bht zada jazbati hogai mene aapki bat se ilhtilaaf nhi kya lekin aise mahol me terbiyat b to diff hai na .... Well mene islam k mujafiz se mtlb sirf aalim mufti liya .... Bat mar dhar ki nhi bt sirf wuhi kerne ki jo kertey hein like speeches n fatwa to dey saktey hein .... Loug samajhtey he ma ki bt k khilaf gai to hum gunahgarr jannat haram isliye ma k kehne p bivi ko zaleel kero etc etc .... Awareness zaruri he na... Khair aap dua to ker saktey hein aap dua karein .... Allah in sha Allah theek kereyga sab.

walaikumus salam jab aap keh arhey hein k sari kharabi nizam or pervarish ki hai ..... yani logo k dilo mein itna islam nhi ... mager yeb atein to insaniyat ki hain kya logo mein insaniyat b nahi ....or jab logo k dilo mein islam nhi to phir to islam k muhafizo ki or zimmedari or zada banti hai ......ager ye unki behnein betiyan yun khuwaar ho rhi hoti to kya kertey sukoon se apney ghero mein bethey hotey( muafi chahti hoon bura lagey to) .....lekin aaj kal insaniyat kahan hai ?? aajkal ka merd smaajhta hai k merey gherwalo ki khidmat nhi balkay un ka kaha her kaam kerna meri bivi ka farz hai or un k hatho zaleel hona b awwaleen ferz hai ...... ( kyun is p nhi roshni daltey Islam k muhafiz) maa kahey to bivi pe cheekhna chillana .... maa k liye hath uthana ... kya ye gunnah nhi .....Islam ki aisi tasveer paish ki jati hai k .... shohar hakim hai jo chahey karey .....maa ka derja buland hai .... beshak hai ... lekin maa k liye bivi ko zaleel kerna theek hai ? iski wazahat kyun nhi kertey ... aise to ye merd apni maa ko gunahgaar bana rahey hein or khud b .... nigrane shoora Haji imran attari ko msg bhejnay ka koi tareeka hai kisi k pass plzz tell me ....

jazakallah brother Ali n shahzad 3/4 month bht lamba tym nhi .... mera to abhi se sir literally phat raha hai ,.....mujhey khulla nhi chahiye ... na itni beizati sahi ja rahi hai....mujhey izzat se pyar se rehna hai ....thora bht samajh ata hai magr is hed tk tang kerna to nhi . Allah malik hai. ager koi buzrug na aai or koi b aam shakhs aai tb ? kisi aam se bat kerna to yani rai ka pahar bnana khair meri sass meri rishtedaar nhi hain ... 2 nandein hain married hain , jethani hai alag rehti hai ( lekin wo 5 bar apney maikay ja chuki hai - ab hi aik month pehley aai hai )pehley week mein 3 days wo aati thi .. ab meeting wagera mein decide hua k haftey mein sirf 1 din aaigi or rukeygi nhi . or mein apney husband se kese bat ker sakti hoon ( as Ali bhai ne suggest kya) unhone khudse koi sms ya msg nhi kya ..... magr FB per aisi posts kertey hein islamic ones... n haji imran attari k lectures share kiye hain bivi ko kesa hona chahiye or shohar ko kesa hona chahiye. lekin koi change nhi . jo islam k muhafiz hain wo in maamlat p kuch kyun nhi kertey ..... sirf lectures or speeches se to sab sahi nhi hota na ..... han kahi logo mein koi changes atay b hon ..... mgr koi step kyun nhi liya jata ... in cheezo ki waja se saaso kai gher berbaad horahey hein ... insan ki married lyf bilkul berbaad hojati hain... koi kyunb kuch nhi kerta jis se sab theek ho .... islamic lectures mein kaha jata hai merd hakim hai .... beshak hai mgr kya zalim hakim hai .... Hakim to hazrat Umer they k un ki hakmiyat mein shair or bakri aik ghaat se pani peetey they ... or shair bakri ko khata nhi tha ......aisa insaaf ka alam tha ....aajkal k merd to sirf naam k merd hain ya aurto p jabir banney k liye ..... merd ki qualities to nhi protect kerney mein inko dushwari provide kerney mein inko dushwari.

walaikumus salam wr wb sis, jab shuru ka aisa period aap ne guzaar liya jab shoher se nhi banti thi ... almost 4 years hogai to ab agay b guzaarain ...ab aapki or shoher ki banti hai... saso ko yehi prb hti hai i guess k mian bivi sath hans kyun rahey hein sath khush kyun hain etc etc ...... apni saas ki waja se shoher se mat jhagrain .....balkay shoher k sath zada hansi mazzak karein ... unko hansayin ...bacho wali herkatein kerein ... ta k unko b acha lagay maza aai... or aap na ho jb to aapko yaad karein ... i understand bht diff hai itna sab sunna ... mgr agr aap k gher mein aap usi waqt kaam na akrein aisa kuch hai to ... kaam kum karein thora ta k batein sun sakein ... jab hum apna 100% deytey hein to us k bad sunnay ki sikat nhi hoti ..... or jb saas bolna shuru karein to aap dil mein sochein k farishtey hein jo jwb de rahey hein or aapko ajer mil raha hai . or ager ho sakay to un k sunanay k waqt aap namaz perh lay .....ager aap k yahan aisa chalta hoto dil relax hojaiga ... or salato hajjat k nafil bandh lain or 3 surah baqra perh lain in shaAllah aap k husband aapko apney sath lay jaeingey . aap merey liye dua karein mein aap k liye dua kerti hoon.

Assalam o Alaikum wr wb meri shadi ko saal ooper hua hai ...mera aik beta hai uski birth ko 4 months huay hain .....mein aik aise susraal meinr ehti hoon jahan saas aik khuda ki terha treat kya jata hai .....meri saas gher ka koi kaam nhi kerti .....sab kaam mujhey hi kerna hota hai .....or Alhumdulilah sab kaam kerti hoon lekin wo beja kaam erwati hein ......routine k kamo k sath exytra kamo ki bhermaar kerdeyti hein....poora gher dekhna sab k kaprey press n all tht or us k sath aik aik min sabko jwb deyna bht diff hai ......remote mein cell dalney or ghari mein cell na dalney pe dant khana ... ghater ka pipe lagao gatar ka dhakan fix kero ...aise sab kaam b mujhey kahey jatey hein or na aanay p batein sunana ....... .... mein is waja se hed derja beemar hogai hoon meri jethani or un k bachi k kaam k liye b mujhey danti hai n kaam zaleel ker k kerwati hai .......or bht shikayatin kerti hein husband se mein kya keroon merey husband bht muhabbat kerney walay hein mgr shikayato pe her choti moti bat p mujhse jhagertey hein ... meri behen se galay kyun nhi mili hath kyun milaya ....tumhein kisi kam se bulatey hein to aik min ruk bachey ko kyun dekhti hoon etc etc ..... or shikayatein aise kertey hein k suni an suni kerti hai mujhse badtameezi kerti hai. shuru se hi bht maslay rahey bht mushkils e handle hua sab.... husband her choti moti bat pe lertey hein .....aise merey husband achey hein mgr gher k kisi mamlaat mein support nhi .....bilkul norkro ki terha ka sulook hai ...meri sas kahey jis waqt mene jo kaam kaha us waqt ho bs .....sab kuch Allah Allah ker k chal raha tha kabhi acha kabhi bura .....ab mene socha tha k husband se directly bat keroon k ye matter soolve ker k dein werna mein ammi k gher ja rahi hoon ... mgr mene koi bat na ki ... ....k aik subha sab ko nashta deney or kaprey press etc ker k office bhejney k bad ... me zara deir ko laiti as tabyat theek nhi thi .....to laitney per meri sas ne khasa danta ... to mene kaha k maa aap itna sunatey hoto pareyshani hoti hai mein sab kaam abhi kerloongi unhone merey husband ko call ki k ye mujhse badtameezi kerti hai k aap ne mujhey pareshan kerdiya hai pareshan kerdiya hai to jai ammi k gher ( merey shoher ne kaha k mein aata hoon )... or meri ammi ko call ker k bhi bola k issey ley jao... (or aise calls wo akser kerti hain ... or merey husband b akser meri ammi ko keh deytey hein ...) merey shoher us waqt office se aai or atay hi mujhey awaz di mene pechey dekha to aik thappar laga di .... or gala dabana shuru kerdiya .....us waqt mein apni ammi k gher agai .... mujhse itni beizzti or ahanat sahi nhi ja rahi ... mein kya karoon mujhey samajh nhi araha ..... plz islam ki roshni mein meri madad karein.